One of the hardest steps for a family is accepting that a loved one has a mental illness. The next hardest is accepting that you are also a “victim” of the illness. I don’t like using the word “victim;” it is such an overused word. Mental illness, like so many Read More ….
My son attended our family Thanksgiving gathering. It was good to see him; but that’s about all that happened. He didn’t interact much, only responding when asked questions. Kept away from the crowd of people. Ate little. He was here, but he wasn’t. It’s not uncommon for our ill loved Read More ….
How often do you enter November with vision of an old-fashioned, family holiday? “This year will be different,” you say to yourself and any family members who will listen. I’ve given up this fantasy, and choose instead to be content with a Griswold Christmas. (If you haven’t seen National Lampoon’s Read More ….
(This is the beginning of a series about helping our loved ones and ourselves through the stresses of the holidays.) It’s that time of year again: The Holidays. The time from Thanksgiving until New Year’s Day is probably the most stressful period in America. Expectations are high; reality is low. Read More ….
One of my first questions when our son was returning home after a suicide attempt was, “How do we ‘watch’’ him?” I didn’t get the answer I wanted: “You don’t.”
I was prepared to have a 24-hour watch, and do it all myself if I had to. That was neither possible nor practical. In the emotion of the moment, I wasn’t thinking; I was reacting. I didn’t, couldn’t, think about myself. Read More ….
Many family members get stuck in the Denial Stage, never moving on to really dealing with the mental illness of their loved one. Leaving Denial means believing this terrible thing has really happened. While in the Denial Stage, it is easier to think all the bad symptoms will magically go Read More ….
I had never heard of Borderline Personality Disorder when my son was first diagnosed. My first reaction was to find out everything I could about it. As part of my research, I looked for a way to quickly fix the problem so my son could get on with his life. Read More ….